You Don’t Get What You Want — You Get Who You Are: The Real Secret to Manifestation

“You don’t get what you want, you actually get who you are.”

If you truly understand this, your entire approach to manifestation changes.

You are not manifesting from your wishes. You are manifesting from your identity.

When you say you want a million dollars, financial freedom, love, confidence, or a life of travel, what you are really saying is that you want a new experience. You want a new reality. But the experience you live is not created by what you desire. It is created by who you believe yourself to be.

Identity Is the Foundation of Reality

The word “I” is more powerful than you realize. “I” represents identity.

Your identity determines:

How you think

How you feel

How you behave

What you tolerate

What you expect

What you attract

If your identity does not match the reality you desire, you will struggle to manifest it.

Trying to create a new life from your current identity is like trying to race a van in a Formula 1 competition . The vehicle is not built for that outcome. The van may have served you before. It may have been practical and useful. But if you want a new destination, you need a new vehicle.

You must shift from being the van to being the race car.

That shift is identity.

Why You Haven’t Manifested It Yet

If there is something you deeply desire but have not yet achieved, the gap is not effort. The gap is identity .

For example:

If you desire deep intimacy but fear vulnerability, your current identity blocks the experience.

If you want wealth but identify as someone who struggles financially, your actions will reflect that identity.

If you want freedom but see yourself as stuck, your behavior will reinforce limitation.

Identity shapes behavior. Behavior produces results. Results reinforce identity.

That cycle continues until you consciously interrupt it.

The Most Powerful Way to Shift Identity: Future Self Scripting

One of the most effective tools to change identity is embodiment. And one of the most practical ways to embody your future self is through scripting .

Future self scripting is not wishful thinking. It is not journaling about what you hope happens one day.

It is writing as if you are already the version of yourself who has what you desire.

Instead of writing:

“One day I will be a millionaire.”

“I hope I travel the world.”

You write:

“I am looking at my bank account right now, grateful for the million dollars sitting there.”

“I just finished lunch with the love of my life, laughing and feeling deeply connected.”

“I spent the morning planning my next international trip.”

You write in the present tense. You write from the identity that already exists.

Why This Works

When you script in the present tense, you shift your internal identity. You move from “trying” to “being.”

There is a major difference between:

“I’m trying to become disciplined.”

“I am disciplined.”

Trying keeps you in transition. Being anchors you in identity.

When you script consistently, your subconscious mind begins to accept that identity as normal. And once it becomes normal, your behavior starts to align with it.

You cannot hold two identities at once . When you consciously choose your future self, you naturally release your past self.

Your imagination is not fantasy. It is the creative realm. The physical world reflects what your inner world consistently holds as true .

How to Practice Future Self Scripting

Keep it simple:

1. Write daily.

2. Write in the present tense.

3. Write as the version of you who already has the results.

4. Focus on experiences, emotions, and behaviors.

5. Be consistent.

Even one minute a day matters. Before bed. After waking up. During a break. Speak it into your phone if needed. The key is repetition.

Challenge yourself to do it for 30 days . You will notice:

A shift in how you think.

A shift in how you feel.

A shift in what you expect.

A shift in what shows up in your life.

You are not asking life to change. You are selecting who you are being .

You are the director. The screenwriter. The actor. The producer. The creator.

Once you understand that you don’t get what you want — you get who you are — everything becomes clear.

Change who you are being, and your reality must follow.

Peace and abundance always

Dr. Abundant