Why Resisting Change Keeps You Stuck—and How to Take Control of It

Change is something you experience whether you want to or not. You see it in your relationships, your career, your health, and even in the way you understand yourself. No matter how stable or “perfect” life may feel in a moment, change is already moving beneath the surface. When you resist it, you create unnecessary suffering. When you understand it, change becomes one of your greatest tools for growth and fulfillment .

You may notice that most discomfort around change comes from fear of what’s next. Even when your current situation feels good, part of you knows it will not last forever. That awareness can bring anxiety, sadness, or even anger. This reaction is natural, but it also reveals something important: when you are worried about change, you are no longer fully present.

Being present does not mean ignoring the future. It means recognizing that the present moment already includes change. Life is not static, and neither are you. When you are truly in the now, you are experiencing life as it is—moving, evolving, and revealing more of who you are. The moment you start worrying about what’s coming, you step out of presence and into resistance.

Change exists for one primary reason: self-discovery. Every shift in your life is teaching you something about yourself. Your preferences, your boundaries, your values, your strength, and your truth all become clearer through change. While you may have goals, dreams, and responsibilities, they all serve this deeper purpose—learning who you are.

Once you understand that change is inevitable, a powerful question emerges: why wait for change to happen to you? If you are the creator of your experience, then change is not something you must endure. It is something you can lead.

Much of what happens in your life is already being guided by a deeper part of you—your higher awareness, your future self, the part of you that sees beyond your current comfort zone. Even when changes feel unwanted, they are often nudging you toward growth, clarity, and alignment. When you become conscious of this process, you can participate in it intentionally instead of reacting to it passively.

Rather than simply accepting change or fighting it, you can facilitate it. You can decide to move first. You can ask yourself, “How can this change serve my happiness, my peace, and my expansion?” This shift in mindset transforms change from a threat into an opportunity.

Resistance usually comes from the ego. The ego seeks comfort, familiarity, and predictability. It prefers things to stay the same. But stagnation is not life. In nature, anything that stops moving eventually decays. Life requires movement, and movement is change.

When something in your life begins to shift—a relationship, a job, a routine—you have a choice. You can give your power away and let the situation define you, or you can take ownership and guide the transition. Leading change does not mean forcing outcomes. It means being intentional, aware, and aligned with what you truly want.

If a relationship is changing, do not wait for the other person to dictate the direction. Take responsibility for your role and your needs. If your work situation is shifting, do not resist or remain passive. Use the moment to grow, pivot, or redefine your path. In every area of life, you are not meant to merely “go with the flow.” You are the flow.

Each step you take changes you. Each decision transforms you into a new version of yourself. With every shift, you move closer to the version of you who experiences greater love, freedom, health, and abundance. That version of you does not appear by accident. It emerges through intentional change.

Change is not the enemy. It is the mechanism that allows you to become more of who you are. When you stop resisting, stop settling, and stop waiting, you reclaim your role as the conscious creator of your life.

So do not just accept change. Lead it. Facilitate it. Own it. That is how you move forward.

Peace and abundance always

Dr. Abundant